So this morning I woke up to a post of someone in one of my fb groups (full of mothers). She stated proudly that she had finished her Bachelor’s degree while working full time, being a mum to 3 special needs children and trying to be an amazing wife to her husband while she was struggling through a burn-out.
For starters, I don’t think there is a question as to WHY she was dealing with a burn-out 😳.
But besides that, is pushing yourself SO hard really that admirable? You only have so many spoons, so if you do all those things, the spoons will be spread thinner.
Great for her if she was trying to follow her dream of course. I’m all for self development, especially for mothers as we tend to forget ourselves easily it seems.
However… when I saw the course she had been doing, my heart bled for her, but more so for her children.
Applied Science in Psychology in Applied Behavior Analysis. And her plan is to continue studying and pass the exam to become a Board Certified assistant Behavior Analyst. That’s all we need, more ABA people 😡.
Reading her post had my brain going mad. I’ve decided that 1. she herself could not possibly autistic, 2. has no idea what damage ABA caused in autistic people, 3. has never talked (or more importantly listened) to an autistic person about her course.
I would love to let her know my thoughts, was it not for the humongous risk of being attacked by all the other mothers who have been applauding her for achieving her goal. I don’t think I can deal with that kind of negativity right now. Then again, not standing up is ignoring the issue.
Or I could possibly just pm her the following picture and link:
Brainwaffling 